La rupture amoureuse peut nous faire souffrir mais en même temps nous donner l?opportunité de tout recommencer. Mais les gens le voient rarement de cette façon à cause des conséquences fâcheuses d?une rupture. Rompre veut dire interrompre ce qui existe.

Cela arrive quand des conflits intérieurs deviennent insoutenables et apportent un état de tension insupportable. Alors, on décide de mettre un terme à cette relation qui est à la base même de tout ce qui nous affecte. Je ne sais pas lequel d?entre vous a décidé de rompre mais j?espère que ces explications vous aideront à mieux gérer ce qui se passe en ce moment dans votre vie sentimentale.

<B>La manière de rompre </B>

Pour qu?une rupture se passe bien, il faut s?assurer qu?elle s?opère de la meilleure façon possible. Sinon gare aux conséquences.

<B>Les raisons de la rupture</B>

Elle nous permet de faire une croix sur le passé. Elle nous permet de retrouver notre indépendance, notre liberté. Elle nous donne l?opportunité de diriger notre vie dans une autre direction à travers d?autres possibilités. Peu importe les circonstances d?une rupture ou la personne qui l?a initiée, on peut toujours ressentir un vide affectif si on s?est totalement investi dans cette relation amoureuse. Il est important que vous partagiez ce que vous ressentez avec une personne en qui vous avez une confiance totale.

Il est possible que vous ressentiez de la tristesse ou de la colère et si vous n?avez personne à qui vous confiez, extérioriser toutes ces émotions qui tourbillonnent dans votre tête en les écrivant et en les lisant.

Vous devriez adopter une attitude positive. Evitez de vous culpabiliser. Ne vous laissez pas submerger par des erreurs que vous avez peut-être commises. On est humain et de ce fait, on ne peut pas être parfait. Il faut apprendre de cette expérience pour mieux nous préparer si jamais la même chose se répète.

<B>? I have a very complicated love life ?</B>

I have a very complicated love life and it has now become a real dilemma. My name is R. and I am a 32 year old woman. I live with M. We have been together for seven years. Now, I have fallen in love with a married man. We have been going out together for the past ten months. He has just informed me that his wife is pregnant though when I met him, he told me that he was divorced. I have tried to leave him but he tells me that he loves me. What do I do?

<B>R.</B>

Your love life would make an excellent plot for a soap opera and a blockbuster rolled in one. It is a web of intrigue and I am sure that the master of suspense Alfred Hitchcock could not have done better. I think that you have made the right decision to give your married lover his marching orders. That is the one and only solution. Please do not let yourself be swayed by his declarations of love.

He has used you to satisfy his personal needs and you should not let him dissuade you from quitting the relationship. I do not know the reasons why you have started this affair may be it just happened but if your relationship with your boyfriend is not working, either you should try to sort it out or call it a day.

Perhaps your married lover was providing whatever you felt was missing in your relationship with your boyfriend. Please do not let your married lover manipulate you to stay with him because I can assure you that it will all end in pain as night follows day. Obviously, he wanted the best of both worlds and he was only stringing you along so as to continue the relationship.

May be, you are suffering from the proverbial seven year itch, may be the passion and intrigue that he has brought to your life has given you the excitement that you long for. An illicit affair can be a strong aphrodisiac but because it is based on deceit, it will eventually come to a natural end. You have tried to escape the problems in your present relationship by taking on a lover. I feel that you should give your boyfriend a chance to put right whatever is not working in the relationship. After seven years together, he deserves at least that if nothing else.

What you must not do is throw a steady relationship that has lasted the test of time for something that will no doubt end in heartache and tears. Please do not let yourself be moved by the empty promises of your married lover. If you do not love M. anymore, then ditch both of them and look firmly towards the future.